Reciprocity is defined as the practice of exchanging things with others for mutual benefit. Seems simple enough in theory, so why is the practice itself so difficult? They say when you do things for others, it should be from the kindness of your heart without expecting anything in return. I think that’s a fair, wise statement, but I also think its flawed.

Human nature dictates that people may want to feel needed by others but they also want to feel they have people in their corner willing to do the same for them. I personally don’t see anything wrong with that. I believe myself to be a kind, generous person who genuinely cares about the well being of others. I do things out of that genuineness without expecting a return. However, in my experiences I’ve come to learn that most people are more willing to take than to give leaving givers like myself depleted and defeated. We are told that we shouldn’t live expecting from others, but I think that’s bullshit.

I believe that everyone is entitled to a modicum of basic respect and reciprocity. If I am giving you my time and you can’t give yours in return, then out of respect don’t waste mines. If I give you my love and you can’t give yours in return, say that shit then so I can move accordingly. If I give you anything material, when I need you later down the road be there. I think reciprocity is a simple concept. Most are just too selfish to give anything to those that openly and willingly give to them.

It’s easier to be a taker and theres no sense of personal accountability. So while I am a giver by nature, I’m reserving my gifts, kindness, love, and all that shit for people who earn it first.